Very often, I get asked by my friends “BRIEE! How in the world do you do it!?!? You always have SOOO much on your plate, yet you get it done with a breeze and STILL manage to stay calm!!”
And while I believe they’re being a bit exaggerated saying I do a lot, and somewhat stay calm in the process, I do have a few techniques up my sleeve on tackling lots of task and staying focus, calm, and not letting the stress of some get to me.
Task breakdown, Lists, and Decluttering. As much as I try to convince myself that I’m organized, I’m actually very very scatterbrained at heart. But I am very obsessed with making check lists. List for goals, achievements, tasks, breakdown a task, To-do lists, etc. etc. I like to think that my scatterbrain self is thinking of too many tasks and agendas to get done that an organized list is an everyday must have.
So I write everything. Yes I mean everything. I do this because if you only have multiple big agendas on your check list, and you don’t get through everything, you’re probably gonna feel defeated. But a mixture of both big tasks and little will make you proud and show yourself you did a lot today. Whether it was learning a new tap routine, or made lunch. You came, you saw, you conquered
Workout/Yoga stretching. Believe it or not, it’s actually really relaxing exercising in a way. It really helps me to workout if I’m frustrated with something (often with myself on an assignment but I’m getting better at that and this certainly helps), if I’m majorly stressed, or if I just need to clear my head. Yoga and stretching helps me to clear my head, be in tune with myself, make sure I breathe, and kinda to think of a game plan for task tackling.
Me time, Tea time. I like to have a nice little routine on Sunday nights to unwind after a long week and have some relaxation as another week approaches. After church and whatever other activities I have on Sunday, I put some calming music (My go-to is ukulele music like Dodie Clark and Grace VanderWaal), wash and pamper my face with masks and rubs, treat my hair for keeping it healthy, prepare a bubble bath with bath bombs and such, comfy jammies, make some sleepy time tea and curl up with a book.
Might sound very tedious, but it’s so relaxing and stress relieving. Especially with long weeks of work and assignments to do, it’s ok to at least have one night to you so pick a Me Time and treat yo self!
Calm. I recently downloaded this app called Calm and I really recommend it if you have trouble finding some time in your busy day to take a few breaths so you can stay sane. It has quick meditating sessions you can choose from, some soothing music and nature sounds, calming stories if you can’t sleep, and you can keep track of your stress levels and how much you’ve done a session per day. I’m really liking it and often use it while I do my stretching to help me be one with my mind and body.
And lastly, but I consider this the most important one
Praying. Especially praying for others. I often go up to my friends or post on my social media that I take private prayer requests, and many people whether I know them or not respond with such gratitude that I do this.
Praying for others actually helps me as well. It helps me with listening skills, being thankful for all the things and people in my life, and mainly to stay grounded and be mindful of others. Yes I have struggles in my life, but there are many others that are struggling way more than I am. So why would I waste my energy contemplating over mine, when I can help and be a light for others. Not saying that your own struggles mean nothing and should just be buried away, But not to fret about it. It’s not the end of the world.
I encourage you to do the same. Reach out to somebody. Ask if you can pray for them and if they need help with anything. It can be as simple as praying that they have good health and strength for days to come. Both of you will be grateful that you did.
Now although these methods and techniques help, there are plenty of times I have my meltdowns behind closed doors because of stress. I’d just like to add that it’s ok to have those meltdowns. Doesn’t mean you’re weak or not capable of doing any kind of task, It just shows that you are human and can handle as much as you get.
I leave my peace with you. I give my peace to you. I do not give it to you as the world does. Do not let your hearts be troubled. And do not be afraid. John 14:27
He made the storm as quiet as a whisper. The waves of the ocean calmed down. The people were glad when the ocean became calm. Then he guided them to the harbor they were looking for. Psalm 107:29-30